Tue 11 Mar 2008
SEX AND MONEY IN MARRIAGE
I have read some scientific articles about the possible problems that occur frequently in a mutual life, even the ideal one which I guess is good to mention here for my friends and is which mostly overlaps with my own experiences that now due to getting better of the most unbearable suffering of that nasty event in my life, I feel enough encourage to discuss it in details and find out the reasons of its occurrence to restrain its repetition in my future life and my friends`, too.
Studies have shown that the two crucial factors affects every mutual life prodigiously even the most successful ones. These include MONEY and SEXUAL SATISFACTION. The financial problems definitely affects every ones feelings and attitudes on the other spouse, even when you love each other so much that without being beside together even for some hours makes you nervous and worried so that you confuse your daily routine activates. But this romantic and ideal lovers and couple will change their minds and behaviors as soon as they get to live under a mutual ceiling, in a house, much more independent from their families, financially and economically. In this case, the increasing expenses will influence the couple`s behaviors towards each other and will alter their manner. One or two is worried about for example the house rent of coming month in this challenging economics of our nowadays society, or other expenses that our old, tedious traditions that propel the young couple to follow and spend really unnecessary expenses on some things that not they, themselves, but even their parents and grandparents hardly know the reason! This is another problem that occupies the minds and thoughts of young couple and affects their manner. The expectations of the families, especially bride`s family of the boy who has begun his career recently, and even that is not so stable and having so high salaries to cover the all expectations of her family and consequently the following comparisons with other sons in law, or other people and blames and quarrels affects the mutual life and love of the young couple, and makes them worried and lose their interests and passions, loves and feelings towards each other, just thinking about the financial problems and expenses! This situations gets much worse that when one of the families or both of them have opposed the marriage between two lovers because of some reasons of their own view points.
Unfortunately, I have experienced this unbearable situation, and felt its sufferings and following pains. HER family was not high class or living in an opulence local, rather they lived in a poor area, HER father was an old man, but very quiet, kind and meek that every body loved him (unfortunately he was sick when we went HER proposal and after 3 months died of cancer…) he had a shop, a carpenter he was, and HER two older sisters were married living in other cities, Tehran, and Qom, they liked me so much, one of my ex-sisters`-in-law husband was a judge, a clergyman in Qom, the other was a clerk in Ouloum Pezeshki organization and at the same time a militant, both liked me. All of them had a very normal and sub normal lives, almost as equal as ours, or some times less than my family`s standards… but they were too traditional, and persisting on following the customs and traditions too closely and too neatly that was making me crazy most the times. Moreover, SHE always compared me with Farokhi, a 60-year-old man who was a retired mathematics teacher and now has an institute in Darvaze Ark, Saba building, who wanted HER before me, and caused a lot of problems for HER and me, threatening HER, causing many problems for HER job and activities within 6 years, but I struggled and challenged so hard that finally could release HER from his presence and threatening, to offer HER an independent life without any worrying of not him nor any body else… but he had already influenced HER mind and ideas about me and my family, and of course HER beliefs and HER behaviors towards HER own family. That wicked man made HER not faith in God, not grabbing HER words and retracting HER promises… just thinking of HER own welfare, material things and affairs etc. or she compared me with HER so rich friends and their families and expected me to do like them… she had already know that what my job was, how much money I made, … but after our matrimonial contract SHE began HER oppositions and blaming me that “see, Azam`s brother (who is a politician and works in Iran’s ambassador in Thailand, took his marriage ceremony twice, once in Zanjan for his own family, low class, and once in Tehran for her family who were much high class, and richer than his.” Or “did you know why Farokhi was against you and our marriage? He loves me… but he said Mousavi is a very good boy, but he does not have any thing, nor a house, a car, money… you should marry with a man, a full grown man that has all of these things and live with each other until he dies and all his properties reach to you…” our the greatest problem was that I did not have a car… SHE loved having a car… while my daddy had had 2 cars at the same time, but most the time he did not like to give one of them to me to drive HER… especially in our celebration in a hall he did not give his car to me to drive my bride form hair dressers to hall, I took a taxi… even he threatened his family, my aunts, uncles, cosines and all of them not taking part in my celebration, none of them came… (Just because of this deed and their following actions I hate them all… and I have not seen or talked with them since then!) She always blamed me because of my daddy`s actions and his family`s… what could I do so? Could I change my family`s behaviors? Those manners that most the time I myself was against them! due to these affairs I do not want to repeat the same story about Lisa… she is great and completely different form HER, nearly the opposite point, but I do not know her, nor her family and after all, she will definitely have some expectations of her husband and his family… and just because of this I want to be independent as soon as possible, making decisions just by myself. I do not want and like any body insult my Lisa, nor ignore her reasonable expectations and wanting just because of traditions… even if it necessitates, I will ignore her LOVE and marrying with her just because of preserving her humanity rights and respects. I do never allow any body to break her respects or rights… even my family!
So you see that MONEY plays a crucial rule in a new mutual life of a couple! So what can we do to compensate its negative aspects and control it not allowing it to affect our lives? You can not do any thing alone, but with complete cooperation with your spouse you can manage to control the issue and whatever the consequences are. And ignore the traditions and customs… free yourselves from restraints of tradition and custom… do not pay attention to unreasonable expectations of your families, nor do compare your spouse and his or her family with others, especially those that you definitely know are completely different from yours in culture and social rank. Be frank with each other and speak about those kinds of issues and not let it influence your love and familiarity!
Scientists say that the main factor in a successful marriage is the ability in employing the money sufficiently. This may be so difficult but imagine that you and your spouse having totally different ideas about the money and its nature want to live with together. One may consider the money as a thing to but needs and necessary objects of the life, while the other considers the money as a means of getting power and rank in the society. Our ideas about money affect our lives and our lives have got their forms on this basis. Our ideas about money date back to our childhood experiences about money. All of us make our financial decisions within a frame which seems sensitive for ourselves.
Why is this issue so important for engaged lovers? Because during the stages of a marriage all of our selections are affected by the outlook of a person about money. All the oppositions and dissatisfactions that seem are about a especial issue, in fact it is about the attitude of people towards the money, even if the issue is detected, its solving will be too difficult. So we will consider some solutions that young couples can build the strong and stable underlying of their financial and economical issues in their lives.
1- See what ideas your spouse has about money. It is not needed to form a questionnaire like Konkour exam of the universities, just ask him or her “what roles does money have in his or her childhood? Is he or she rich or poor? Just try to find out what role the money has played in his family.
2- Speak about your current ideas of money. Do you scare of having no money or having extra money? Is it an issue that you do not like to talk about? You may think frequent hours about money, or even never may you think about it. Tell each other your feelings.
3- Tell what is an enormous purchase in your idea? For some people an unprogrammed purchase of 10000 tomans seems a great deal, but for others spending of 20 bucks of 2000 bills is small! S it correct that before every purchase consult with your spouse? All of this data will help you in your future mutual life. When your spouse comes home with an unprogrammed purchase, or with a little raising of the telephone bill, he shouts, perhaps it is not the issue of your distant call for you mommy, rather maybe he is afraid that he has no money for paying of house rent.
4- Speak about your bank account with together. Do you make a mutual account in a bank or rather like to keep your money separately in your own account? This may be an important issue for most of the young couples. For some of them a common account may be a means of expressing their responsibilities for the marriage, while for others an account that they can control by themselves alone may be a sign of respecting of themselves, so do not ignore that.
5- Consider how the loans affect your properties: one or both of the couples may get some loans. Make decisions on how you want to control and solve these affairs before your marriage.
6- Make decisions on who is responsible to pay the bills and organize the notes of expenses. You may want to get rid of these responsibilities. With this task, both couple will increase their awareness about the family’s properties. We suggest to both the man and the woman of the family that every month review family’s incomes and expenses. In most cases you can solve the problems so simply before they are getting so big that they can not be solved!
All the young couples will be so busy some months before marriage. Even they do not want to celebrate a big wedding; still there will be so many things that will take their time. But never forget that have some time to discuss and talk about some nonemotional issues like money. After all of these discussions still we should tell that money is a very important issue so that you can say “for ever I will be with you until death will separate us” to your spouse!
Remember that the mutual life means commonsense between the couple! In every aspect of life they must cooperate with each other. Without cooperation no one can reach a successful life and marriage! Do not expect of your love and spouse too much… just reasonable and do not repeat my experiences… next time I will speak about SEX and SEXAUL relationships between engaged couples, and marriage ones.
Mon 10 Mar 2008
GIVING GIFTS FOR OTHERS, HAVE YOU DONE THAT? DO YOU LIKE IT?
I have always loved to give presents to others especially my love, and those who I like and love! So in every occasion, from Eves to birthdays, I have tried to make my friends and colleagues happy and show them that I have reminded them and they are valuable and important for me! When this reaches to the turn of my love… it differs… just God knows how much I love to buy for my love a gift… especially an uninvited gift in an unusual occasion… even more, I love to go shopping with my love while hand to hand, smiling, and I am looking at her nice eyes, pretty face and delicate lips… how romantic it is… isn`t it? With being by each other and with each other, both of us feel happy and at the same time proud, such a great desire in our eyes that all the people around us get jealous and envy while they are watching our love and friendship! This dream has never happened to me, even with HER… SHE never liked to come with me outside, walking along the street, or going shopping… even when SHE was consent to do so… SHE walked in a 1 meter distance away from me… even worse than strangers… those who did not know that we were couples… thought that we were completely strangers… or I might have interfere HER! Hey… my God… but finished! Let`s continue our previous debate… yes… as I told you, when I gave some body a gift… a very good feeling fills up my heart and soul and I feel so grateful and happy that I forget all my grief and sadness at the moment and feel form the bottom of my heart how much happy I am! Really is there some thing in this confusing world that reaches to this feeling of happiness, especially when I am granting a gift to my love… this feeling nearly wants to kill me! I love offering gifts for others, especially … but the only problem remains… is first about my love! For the first time (of course it is not my first time giving my Lisa a gift! I have already done that several times…) but I want to give her a present for coming new Eve… but what? I do not know any thing about her tastes and desires and of course about her ideas about such an action, on the other hand, the gift must deserve her, and her value and importance for me… and such a gift surely costs more than what I can afford! I know she does not expect any thing from me… but as I told you… I just what it to do because of my own heart and happiness… SHE always told me “the value of a gift is not important, it may be even a match box, the important thing is that you have been thinking of her … this is much more important!” of course she always spoke such a this when we were just friends, I loved HER (one-side love) but SHE didn`t, just liked me! I always tried to buy HER the best one in the store, the most expensive one that I could afford… I remember… I was a student and I did not have any job… just occasionally translating some texts and made money… almost every day as equal as 1000 tomans I could make… but I programmed HER for example birthday and saved my money… did not buy any thing for myself even a pair of socks… all I saved to buy my love a gift… to make HER happy… and finally despite of a lot of problems that FAROKHI was making for us… I was giving HER gift… SHE was just smiling and saying “thank you!” and this smile and this word were making me so happy that I felt I was going on the sevens heaven! I gave HER any thing that I thought SHE needed or wanted, from a small glass of perfume (my the first gift… to jewelries, cell phone, share stocks, cloths, scarf, …) but at the end, the last time… it was HER birthday… she did not accept my small gift for the first time… we were doing our separation paper works… I remember… I invited HER for a dinner in HAJ DADASH traditional restaurant, I had already bought HER a night cloths, it was very beautiful… but SHE rejected it… I got so angry that (SHE was too stubborn…) so I gave it to a poor girl sitting in the corner of CHARAHE SADI and was begging! ) SHE always told that the value of the gift was not important but only the remembrance of the one in your mind was precious but I had known her correctly and truly that whatever SHE said NO, it meant YES, and whatever SHE said YES, it meant NO, whatever SHE said “I don`t know” it meant the worst occasion, in every case SHE would blame you quarrel with you! SHE changed! SHE was not the one I had fallen in love with HER, nor was SHE that QUEEN in my dreams that I always sang the song… SHE changed dramatically, SHE got too cruel, too unfaithful… SHE changed dramatically…
Forget it… tell me what should I do? I love giving Lisa a gift, however, it is too small and too simple, but because first I want to show her my love and this point that I am thinking of her and being with her all the time is my pleasure, and to show her that how much she is valuable for me … and the second… because of the mentioned feeling of happiness and feeling of being important at least for an other person! I have already bought some presents for my friends, not all of them, unfortunately, because of the financial problems I have had, some of them such as Mr. Kimiaghalam, my manager in Zabansara, and my previous high school teacher, Mr. Mirzaie, our secretary there, Mr. Karami, a worked there, he is a poor man… I should have given him some thing more, but…! I have given my family some presents, too! My daddy, my mommy, my brother and my sister, and I would like to give some presents to Sahar, Shadmanesh and of course my Lisa… but what is good for Lisa? Will it bother her, I mean will she like my gift and present? Or she dislikes it?
Sun 9 Mar 2008
I was so depressed and so gloomy that I could not concentrate on my studying, so I got on the net, and amazingly saw Lisa is on… she began the conversation… we had a good conversation which I got so energy and again refreshed! Of course I have perceived some other moralities of her… and some ideas… some thing about her nice family. Some of her ideas are completely opposing mine! But I guess she and I can understand each other properly and gel along well! I have to wait and trust in God to help me to reach my LOVE and get happy together for ever! Am I right?
I am putting here some useful links that you can download the material, in English and Persian, and employ them. But do not forget your nice ideas about them, some of them I wrote myself! Love to all my friends.
The English tests
http://www.4shared.com/file/37510499/d868a82a/English_Placement_Test.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37510818/6eacebd0/Sample_English_Vocabulary_tests.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37511004/c8aea067/TOEFL_SAMPLE_TESTS.html
A scientific article about how fall in love and why. It is interesting to know some thing about the process
http://www.4shared.com/file/37401024/ca438f0/how_to_fall_in_love.html
pictures of different places where I have traveled. Seeing them is enjoyable.
http://www.4shared.com/file/37400247/78cf7dc7/IRAN-KASHAN.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37399413/6b452c6a/IRAN-KONG.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37399979/d512f1a1/IRAN-RAMSAR.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37401106/d15e5169/IRAN-ZABOL.html
Apadana`s pictures in Assh festival
http://www.4shared.com/file/37766096/955d3fa0/______.html
my beautiful house and garden in Zanjan
http://www.4shared.com/file/37402003/b243603f/IRAN-ZANJAN-MYHOUSE.html
http://www.4shared.com/file/37401509/46e8e424/IRAN-ZANJAN.html
the little prince by Du sen egzu Perry (English)
http://www.4shared.com/file/38273855/2c94876/The_little_prince.html
the little prince (Persian)
http://www.4shared.com/file/38273529/4ce601c9/_____.html
the peace and war by Tolstoy (English)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39210443/c029749c/WAR_AND_PEACE_by_Leo_Tolstoy.html
Paradise Lost by John Milton (English) (بهشت گمشده)
http://www.4shared.com/file/38521397/33cbfef4/Paradise_lost_by_milton.html
Daddy Long Legs (Judy About)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39215588/cd52781d/daddy_long_lengs_by_Jean_Webster.html
Bible (انجیل)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39216764/4b566238/bibel.html
Avesta (اوستا)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39217269/8b90bb0b/azargoshasp-parsi.html
Quran (English)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39219287/1274ccb1/Quran_english.html
Mafatiho Aljenan (مفاتیح الجنان برای موبایل فرمت جاوا)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39220391/d96607a8/Mafatih_1224.html
Sahifeye Sajadiyeh (صحیفه سجادیه برای موبایل فرمت جاوا)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39222294/2c7519b/Sahifeh-mobile_Emamsajjadcom_.html
Komeil prayers (ARABIC and PARSIAN)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39997643/4cd2349/Komeil_Arabic.html
A TRUE QUEST IN LEARNING ENGLISH (selected English readings, written by MYSELF)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39494306/b82b6c19/A_true_quest.html
My book : the forgotten revenge (a novel in Persian)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39510552/b2f22fc4/Yaser_Book.html
My book :fundamental principals of translation (grammar in both English and Persian, translation …)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39311302/a5ed234b/fundamental_principles_.html
Quran in English
http://www.4shared.com/file/39219287/1274ccb1/Quran_english.html
Parvine Etesami (Persian poems)
http://www.4shared.com/file/39669009/172021d6/parvine_etesami.html
Sat 8 Mar 2008
I dislike my family!
May be you say that I am crazy, unfaithful, bad natured, etc. but what can I do when I do not like my father, my brother, my paternal grandparents, my paternal aunts and uncles? I know that no one is complete and totally correct, good natured, without any problem or without any error, I am a normal one with a lot of mistakes and wrong deeds, but I mean I do not like their behaviors, their thoughts, ideas, … they are completely against mine, some times they drive me so crazy that I get really depressed and get so disappointed that I lose the control of my life and wander with out any goal! I can not do any thing to change my father and my brother, and now I can not leave them, too! But I have already decided to abandon all my paternal family, all aunts, uncles, cousins and others, and it has been more than 10 or 11 months that I have not gone their houses nor have I seen them, but this coming Eve makes me worried, I do not go their houses, and even they come to our house, I will not see or speak with them at all, and this behavior will make my daddy crazy and too angry and he will quarrel with me! I do not scare about that but it occupies my mind not allowing my family`s vocation spoiled! So I am thinking about some solutions to get rid of them all, seeing and following the monotonous and tedious traditions, some times childish, some times irrational! I am against all the traditions and customs!
My family and paternal family behave in a way that I can not bear it at all, wishing to have an independent life separated from them all, living alone, and manage to control my own life by my own hands… but with these days economical and financial issues of society and mine, it seems impossible… I can not express my love towards Lisa so directly just because of my family`s behaviors that always make me ashamed and embarrassed among other people, before strangers… therefore, I have decided to propose Lisa after my independence from my family, especially financially and the place of living! But this process needs a lot of time and you know … for a lover the time, the longer time is like a bitter poison to drink, little by little, how can I bear her farness and the gloom of her distance in my heart? Even when we are beside each other… the fear of being unable to do some thing for her, just because of my financial problems makes me so worried that just prefer to leave her, not speaking even a word! While just God knows how much I love her and how much I need her… hey hey hey… again I think I got so emotional and so sensible that can not wait and use my wisdom rationally!
Fri 7 Mar 2008
Today I was so busy! It was holiday but I was working hard to help my mammy to clean up the mess and dust for new year coming! No body was at home, they were on vocation, and I began to dust away every thing and almost now finished every thing, even the garden and punning of trees and my ROSE flowers (more than 28 bushes of ROSE form every kind except blue and black, all of them I, myself, have cultured!) some men can not do house works or they simply do not like that reasoning it is the duty of women, not men! But I always wonder who did establish this rule and tradition? Of course there are some jobs and tasks that only men or only women must do that as their especial duty, but what happen if a man helps his wife doing housework which is so difficult and tedious! Why do not we, men, do the dishes, or cook, or bring up the child, when our wives need some variety in their routine tasks? I always help my mother, even if I do not have time or do not like it! The life is a mutual affair that only by cooperation and love it can last and survive! Am I right?!!!
By the way, as I did the housework, I was thinking about differences between a DREAM and a FACT, between a REALITY and FANCY, between MEMORIES and TRUTH! Really… what is the difference? I know that all FACTS were some day DREAMS, … and I believe that of whatever you think, that will definitely happen to you and you can change your around world by your thinking… it depends on your way of thinking … but what is the MEMORY that past? Is it a REALITY or just a faded DREAM? How can you prove that that especial event happened to you? If there is no evidence such as photos, videos , etc. how is it possible to say that “yes, that happened to me…? nothing is remained, nothing is there in REALTY … around the real world… because everything is vanishing and fading along the time… so what is the difference between a DREAM and a REALITY? Between a MEMORY and a TRUTH? Do you understand?
“I walked behind her… she was looking out through the big window… over there … the mountains were blinking… far away some snow on them was seen. I could smell her sweet especial odor. She was standing there with her hands folded, without any movement was looking outside… I stood behind her… she noticed me… returned… smiled and looked directly into my eyes… her black eyes… her black big eyes… like two black gravels on the bottom of a puddle shinning under the clear crystal water… her lips… her RED small CHERRY lips… was moving, saying “oh, Yaser, this is wonderful, this view is so great… this apartment is very modern, big, fantastic… “the tune of her voice evokes in me great desire… her red small lips arise of passions and her pretty face invites me to kiss her cheeks… I said “I am very happy that you like it…” “like it? I love it… it is so great… like a sweet dream… “she exclaimed. I smiled and then I took her soft hand… “Lisa… DO YOU MARRY ME? I LOVE YOU! And here would be our love house… if you honor to me!” she smiled… escaped her eyes of mine… looked down… a little blushed… said “ it would be my pleasure to marry with you and be your wife!” my heart began to thump and my head started to warm… I put up her delicate hand and kissed on it… she looked at me… blushed.. a little shy… exclaimed “my husband would not kiss my hands… he must kiss other place…” then I passionately hugged her and looked at her eyes… then her delicate lips… and then passionately kissed each other by the lips… so sweet… so cherry… then she humbly returned to the window, again watched out side, while I embarrassed her form her back… tightly squeezing her into my chest… breathing beside her ear… holding her hands in her front… looking out side… nothing I was telling… the mountains were so great… exalted on the far… some snow was seen…”
Tell me my friends… is this a REALITY? A DREAM? FANCY or TRUTH? How did you know that? think about it and then inform me via yaserymc@yahoo.com or yaser.saba@gmail.com
Another thing… some of the friends… I mean new ones, like the girl in love, Dante, KarKase Pir, and others… I just want to tell you that I will be so happy to help you to learn English or improve your knowledge in English. Even one of my original purposes of just writing here in English is to help my friends to do so… therefore, do not hesitate if you want to learn English or improve it.
Wed 5 Mar 2008
LOVE of Lisa caused me to return to God!
After almost 6 months of not being able to see Lisa, finally I met her in my today class. She was so gracefully and so nicely sitting in the class among the students that I can not describe how beautiful and pretty she was! She has got so lovely and bloomed so attractively that caused me to fall in love with her so deeply and so passionately even form the first glance on her elegant face! I welcomed her to the class and because of her, I bought a pack of chocolate, any way my LOVE came to see me!!! Then we began the class and she humbly helped the others to work in pair activities, full of laugh and joy filled up the class, unfortunately Sahar was sad… and she friendly brought her out to talk to her to take it easy and then came both to continue the class.
After the class, she stayed in the class with me to talk. I do not know, but maybe my presence and dignity at the same time friendly behavior made her not speak about what she was going to talk, maybe criticizing me, maybe rejecting my love, however, we talked about her university and my M.A, her coming M.S and so forth. We talked about her English and the need for its completion, and she acceded my idea and request for her English. Sahar was in hurry, so she knocked the door and wanted to go, but we said just two minutes later we will departure with her. She so gracefully and politely, while ashamed a little, with modesty asked “if possible do not send those smses… you know… we can be each other`s friends, but we belong to two different groups, two different genders, and you see we must pay attention and take care of our relations…” I said “ok, I guess you would be bothered of those words, ok, I do not send you any more…” she smiled so pretty, then stood up to leave the class, I opened my bag, and brought out the red lovely ROSE which I bought for her, saying “ because of long time no see you, I bought t for you…” and offered it to her, but I do not know why didn`t I put it directly into her soft hands, instead put it on the chair! Maybe I got too shy and ashamed that I could not do the thing I wished…! She gracefully smiled and accepted the ROSE! Then we said goodbye and I left them, Sahar and Lisa, Sahar needed her, of course! I wish I could express her my love some day and … and hug her so tightly and kiss her to thank her for her every kindness towards me!!!
After that a feeling of enjoyment and happiness with energy filled up my soul and heart that I can not describe it! I felt so happy, whereas I must be sad, because she was a little angry at me, and maybe she does not love me any more… but my heart says that she loves me, too! I hope so any way, but her behaviors and thought influenced me so much that as I promised my God, I began his worshipping and praying almost after a relatively long time of stopping it! Wonderful and amazing! Somebody`s love separated me form the God and made me stop his worshipping, SHE did not believe in God or any other thing any more, to be frank! But the Lisa`s LOVE made me happy and devoted to God, begin his praying and his LOVE! Thank you my God that offered me one more chance! And thank you my dearest LOVE, Lisa to whatever you have done for me and caused in me to happen, form those nice and great feelings to this feeling of LOVE of God, thank you!
Before class, I went Azad University to see Mrs. Rezaie. I have missed her so much… when she saw me she got so happy and laughed! She welcomed me warmly … as I went there several times, all her colleges know me and welcomed me! We spoke a little about myself, my occupation, I informed her that I took the examination of BANK, she got happy very much of hearing that… and about my M.A and my paper for Gillan University conference… then she asked about Lisa …”have you talked to her yet?” I said “ not yet, but I am waiting for my condition gets better, especially my financial and my Job, especially the bank, then I will propose her definitely… but she herself asked me to talk to me today!” she said “so, you must be ready for the happening of every thing! She may get angry at you and your naughty actions… “ I told “but, no matter, I am ready! I will not speak about those LOVE affairs or our future, proposing etc, rather than wait to see what she is going to say… then if she talks about those things I will reply her properly, telling my heart`s words…” she accepted, and added that her family also are so great and honorable …” I said “ it is clear… because of that they could bring up such a girl like Lisa!” she agreed and smiled at me and my deeds! She is very nice!
Sarfaraz says “I read your weblog and completely know some thing about you and Lisa!” I asked “what?” she said “but before telling you… is Lisa a real person? Or a fantasy? “ I said “come on! She is as real as the Sun!” she added “but with reading your words, I thought she is just an imagination of your mind… she is so nice and great! And I perceived that how much you love her, and I pray for you to reach her…” I thanked her… but really have I exaggerated on her description and thoughts and behaviors?” I do not think so… she is exactly as nice and pretty as I explained and described! Other wise I would never love her or chose her as my future spouse!
Shariati says : they created the world badly… you love somebody that does not love you, some body loves you but you do not love him or her, however, that one you love … that she or he loves you, too, traditionally and custom never do reach to each other… and this is suffering… and it means the LIFE!
But I do not agree with the last statement: “those who love each other will never reach to each other…” I believe if they love each other truly, then they will definitely reach to each other to be happy for ever!
