Mon 7 Apr 2008
DO NOT HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE ANYMORE… EVEN WITH YOUR TURE LOVE!
One of my friends consulted with me for some thing strange that definitely will influence her future life, even nowadays life! She is very lovely and lively girl, full of energy and so active, but too sensible! She is very emotional that this affects her occupation and personal life! She has had a boyfriend and loves him too much… so much that she prefers to lose every thing but have him! (Some times I feel envious about her! I wish I had had a girl like her to love me!!!!) By the way… her parents, on the other hand, do not like the boy and rejected his proposal! But she still insists on the matter! Why? I do not know… I can not explain rationally and sensibly I can understand her! You love in synonymous with craziness!
She met me so worried that made me bewildered! She said “he and I did some thing that now we can not gat back! I mean… we promised each other to marry with together… despite of my family or his opposition! “I said “it is ok… but it is better to get your families` agreements, and then get married.” She said “even in the case of their opposition… we can not gat back… we must marry!” I said “why? May be you would not be suitable for each other and they have some reasons for that and that you must listen to them!” she said “No! I love him and I can not survive without him, even a moment!” I said “come on! You are too sensible! I have always told you that let the affairs go on their natural way! What did you do that now you are so worried and confused?!!!” she said “do not ask, I can not tell you… but… now I am worried just because I can not trust in him and his love!” I asked “why?” she said” since he has broken his promises a lot of times… but this time he promised me differently… what can I do? How can I prove that?” I did understand what happened between them! They made love with each other, they had sex before marriage and before any body of their families knows and agrees with their marriage!
I said “take it easy! Do not tell any body what happened and continue your life without any obstacle! Do not let yourself decide on your future life on this issue! Let not this issue affects your decision and your life!” she said “No! I can not do that! I love him so much… without him the life is meaningless… but I am afraid … my family will not agree with him and in this case… he may leave me… and than what must I do? What can I do? Especially in this condition that we have! I am afraid of this… tell me what I must do? I said “Let the things happen naturally… let he come to propose you of your parents once again and at the same time work on your parents` minds to agree with your marriage! Do your best… but be sure… if your parents not agreeing with you and you love him so much… he follows his promises and never break your trust in any condition! In this case… you can run away with him… but it is too risky! Are you sure about him????” she said “no! But this time it is different! We did… so he can not break the trust!” I said “you can not tell that! He is a boy… and boys do not be harmed any more… but the girls are so tangible! If he leaves you… you do not have any thing on your hand!” she said “yes… and this makes me worried now and kill! What I must do?” I said “I insist that do not think about what happened between you… let no thing happened and let the things happen in natural sequences… but if not… no other choice… give him another chance… but speak with him that this time you are gambling on you life and future… on other way back remains… he must be responsible towards you and you can count on him in any condition… speak with him and then talk to your family and pray God that every thing goes well till you reach your life…” she said “ok!” I said worriedly “but in this case… beginning a new life is too risky and you are gambling on your life… you are going to establish a life on a bulb of soup… to fragile, too breakable!”
When she was telling the story… I understood her totally… since I remembered the same thing happened to my ex-wife! SHE had had sex with one of her boyfriends … but then he left HER and because of that SHE went under the support of Farokhi… who caused so many problems in the future… I knew the issue just before my last proposal of HER. HER closest friend told me that… but because I loved HER… I never mentioned it … never… but after that I had understood what sufferings SHE had bore… and just because of lowering those sufferings and releasing HER from the grasp hands of Farokhi… I married HER… with this vain thought that maybe my true love would recover HER and SHE would have a natural life in the future… but SHE, HERSELF, did not accept that!!!
